I want to start this post by saying my diet is most certainly not peak health and wellness. I have a mad love for pizza and a good white wine and stealing the biscuits and chocolates from the hotel I work at. But that being said, if we want to eat slightly healthier and start making positive changes towards our diets there are guidelines we can follow that may not get you looking like Irina Shayk, but that can help lessen the excesses of sugars, salts and saturated fats and help us meet our requirements for other nutrients we may be lacking in. In reality, it’s easy for a doctor or a dietitian or some healthy eating infographic to tell you to eat more vegetables or you’re going to get diabetes and die, but the fact is that in practice it’s much harder to alter our habits that we’ve grown so accustomed to. I don’t believe that people can be spooked into changing these unhealthy eating practices through scare tactics. It’s far too common that people are shamed or frightened into trying to lose weight or alter their diets in a radical way through societal pressures and this just doesn’t work because a diet being pushed through shame and guilt and complete rigidity is not sustainable. This type of dieting will more than likely result in a person giving up on this “unattainable” healthy lifestyle and reverting back to old eating patterns that aren’t necessarily the healthiest either while feeling an increased amount of negative emotion. Well I’m here to say fuck that shit and that there are many factors that go into a person’s diet and body shape and you should never be ashamed because you can’t fit into size 6 jeans.
A person’s body doesn’t necessarily reflect how healthy they are or how they feel about themselves and when it comes to slowly forging healthier eating patterns, it is very important to remember that. Here is one guideline that I have learned about that is sustainable and and will create confidence in your ability to fuel your body in a healthy way. This method is easy to follow and flexible, and will celebrate the small, everyday achievements of forging healthier eating patterns that will help you rediscover the joy that food can bring to your life when you aren’t jumping from surviving solely on soup and smoothies for days to eating a whole birthday cake and a family bucket of KFC chicken.
Perfectionism Has No Place In A Healthy Diet
I’m sure we’ve all had a class week where we’ve eaten so healthy, no takeaways or chocolate or white bread, turning down any treat offered to us and feeling like a health and wellness queen only to crash come Saturday and have a massive takeaway and demolish every snack food in the house. You look in the mirror and see the bloat resulting from a full belly (which is fully normal and fine btw) and it makes you feel like you’ve ruined all your hard work, that you’re back to square one again. This is a cycle and it’s one that does nothing for you except make you feel like shit. In fact, this sort of perfectionist attitude towards diet can be very damaging to your mental health as this can quickly lead to a number of eating disorders where perfectionism and control are major factors. If your opinion of yourself is dramatically altered based on your ability to deny yourself a kitkat at lunch then this is unhealthy and this is an issue.
The fact is that you are human and humans are not designed to be perfect. By accepting nothing but perfection in any aspect of our lives we are setting ourselves up for failure and self-loathing because it’s often just not possible, and honestly kinda dull like who wants to be with mr. perfect over there who won’t even eat a bag of skittles for fear of losing his gains. The first step to creating a healthy diet for ourselves is to accept that we aren’t going to be perfect and to give ourselves the space to enjoy a treat every now and again because we fucking deserve it.
Leanne Ward is a dietitian from Australia who has described this strategy of accepting imperfection in many of her podcasts which I will leave linked below. Basically, this guideline is about recognising that near enough is good enough and that a diet most certainly does not have to be perfect in order for it to be healthy, in fact it shouldn’t be. Leanne achieves this by breaking up her five meals for the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner and two snacks) into percentages, so 20% per meal. So lets say you have a lovely healthy breakfast of porridge with maybe raspberries and blueberries sprinkled on top and a cup of tea. This is a very healthy breakfast so in your head you can be like oh thats 20% got for breakfast. Then lets say you’re at work and it’s someone’s birthday so everyone’s having a slice of cake at breaktime. You consider eating the cake and think “oof this is unhealthy” but you eat it anyway because it’s a lovely thing to celebrate someone’s birthday plus birthday cake is delicious. Now you’re at a crossroads. You’ve just eaten this delicious cake and your perfectionist, diet-driven mindset is telling you you’ve fucked it and you’ve ruined your diet for the day. You feel guilty and a bit ashamed. But with is new way of thinking where near enough IS good enough, you consider “well I’ve eaten this cake that isn’t really healthy but I’ve had a healthy breakfast. I have 20% and there’s still three more meals in the day so it’s ok”. You continue with your day and at lunch time one of the girls suggests getting a takeaway for lunch. You consider, and one side of you, the perfectionist side, thinks ” well I’ve already fucked up my diet for today with the cake so I might as well go all out with a takeaway,” while the other, more reasonable side thinks “Well I have 20% from breakfast, I may have missed out from my snack but I can eat my healthy, packed lunch instead of a takeaway and gain another 20%”. So you eat your packed lunch and instantly feel better about yourself because look you’ve gained yourself another 20%. So feeling hyped from your two healthy meals, you go home and decide you’re going to keep this streak going and make a class dinner with maybe some spaghetti bolognese and some salad on the side, giving you another 20%. Now you’re flying it at 60% and you might decide to have a quick snack before bed of maybe some wholegrain toast and butter with maybe a glass of milk but you also decide you want something sweet so you have a cheeky biscuit as well. Do you feel guilty? No because you can still surely reward yourself 10% for this meal making a grand total of 70% for the day. That’s a H3 grade in the Leaving Cert baby and you should be proud!
What I love about this approach to healthy eating is that it promotes rewarding yourself for eating well because so often in diets we focus solely on punishing ourselves for eating unhealthy foods and this is just not very helpful (think syns in slimming world, like please don’t think of eating food as a sin). I also love how accessible this approach is. There’s no fancy meal plan or anything like that, as long as a person has a basic understanding of what foods are healthy and fuel our bodies and what foods aren’t the best, then they can use this method. The best thing about this strategy is that it keeps you from giving up because with every meal there is something to be gained and so it creates more positive feelings around food that many people today just don’t have. In conclusion, in terms of basic a guideline to follow to generate a healthy eating pattern, I think this method is brilliant, it’s positive, it’s easy to understand, it’s maintainable it’s a brilliant place to start.
Leanne Ward’s podcast: https://leanneward.com.au/podcast/



